I was woke up early by my 16-year-old dog, who was coughing
and gagging due to being in congestive heart failure. Even though my heart
breaks for him, at times I wish he would just lay down and quietly pass away in
his sleep. Death is not always that way. Instead it is drawn out in suffering
and ugliness.
After letting him and my other two outside, I cleaned up
where he had wet on himself and the floor, then I jumped in the shower. I was meeting people in different locations to
sell them items I had posted online. I was hoping to make enough money so I
could pick up a few things I needed from the store. The first person I was
meeting always stressed me out, so I decided to smoke some weed before I left,
so by the time I was to meet with her, my anxiety was low. As usually, she was
late, but also didn’t have all the money, so she only got $5 worth of things
from me. She said she would have to get the rest next week. I politely smiled
and told her it wasn’t a problem and that I understood. If I wasn’t high, I
would have probably choked her, or at the least cussed her out for making me
drive half way into Tulsa for just $5… waste of time and gas.
I stopped off at a Q-Trip to pick up a drink and get some
gas, and then messaged the next person I was to meet. By the time I finished
filling my gas tank, they messaged me back saying they couldn't meet for another
hour. I didn’t want to drive back to Glenpool, so I called a friend to see if I
could drop by for a little while and kill some time. When I got to her place she welcomed me in
with a big hug and told me how sorry she was to hear about my brother, my mom,
and my cousin all passing away. She asked how I was doing and I said what I
said to everyone who asked… ‘I’m doing okay’.
We sat in her living room in front of a 60 plus inch TV
while she rolled up a big joint of the high dollar weed she had gotten from
Colorado. We passed it back and forth
while we talked about how unfair life is sometimes. I told her about how all I
wanted to do was sleep. It was easier that way. I didn’t have to think about
life if I was asleep. When I was awake, I had no energy, no motivation, I didn’t
care. I just wanted time to pass quickly.
She talked about how strong of a person she thought my
brother was and how he never gave up on anything, even when he was faced with a
difficult challenge. He was shot when he was just 8 years old and never again got
to experience running, playing baseball, playing tag late at night, but that
didn’t stop him from doing other things. He loved going fishing and hunting,
and when he got old enough he learned how to drive a car, he went to college, and
also taught at a college. Even though he
couldn’t walk, he did some things that other people could not do. He didn’t let
the cards he was dealt, defeat him from enjoying life.
We also talked about my mom and how she always encouraged
everyone she met. In her eyes, everyone
was perfect just the way they were. She never yelled at anyone, and always had
a smile on her face. She had devoted her entire life to taking care of my brother,
so she often forgot to take care of herself. Maybe that is where I had a hard time
forgiving her, even though it really wasn’t her fault, she rarely spent time
with me. Back when I was young, I didn’t understand why, but now I finally did.
By the time we finished the joint, I was more relaxed and
okay with things that I had been in weeks. She gave me one more long hug before
we said goodbye and told me things were going to be okay. I smiled and thanked
her as she handed me joint for later after I got home. I finished meeting with
2 other people, and then stopped off at the store for a few things before heading
home.
I unlocked the door and was stopped by my dog that always
laid in front of it when I was gone. Though the partly opened door, I called
out his name for him to move and gently pushed him with the door. It usually took him a few seconds to get up because his hips bothered him, but after a few
tries, he still wasn’t moving. I peered through the opening enough that I could
tell he had passed away. I had to go around to the side door to my garage and
go inside that way. I’ve seen enough death recently, so for whatever reason,
this didn’t faze me. I gently rolled him up in the small floor carpet and took
him out back for my son to bury him after he got off from work.
It’s after midnight now and I just smoked the joint I had
gotten earlier. I don’t think I could have made it through this day without it.
It has helped me deal with all the emotions, the stress, and the depression of
dealing with life and death. Tomorrow I will make though the day, the best I
can.
You have to forgive anyone who has caused you pain or harm.
Keep in mind that forgiving is not for others; it is for you. Forgiving is not forgetting;
it is remembering without anger. It frees up your power, heals your body, mind
and spirit. Forgiveness opens up a pathway to a new place of peace where you can
persist despite what has happened to you.
